there's been a lot of talking about weddings lately.
surprise, surprise, right??
you know, since anna and i are in heather's [along with several other young women] this saturday.
i'm excited. :) she's going to be a beautiful bride, derek's going to be a handsome groom, us bridesmaids are going to be gorgeous [hahah], and it's going to be a wonderful time, and a really lovely, busy weekend.
tomorrow night [thursday] we host the bachelorette party, and i have a feeling it's going to be all sorts of awesome. with tons of laughing. i happen to like laughing. and making people laugh.
so with all this talk, my mind's been spinning.
what's traditional.
what isn't.
what's expected.
what isn't.
what is compulsory decisions.
what isn't.
what's important.
what isn't.
what's truly needed and wanted.
what isn't.
what blueprints do we throw out or make our own.
what things do we make new.
what do we care about.
why do we do what we do??
so far i haven't talked with many people who have dramatically different views opposing to mine, which have been shaped a lot over the past few months with heather [and my dear friend, pj] both planning weddings for march.
tonight i finally got around to researching wedding parties, because the more i talk about the people who spend hundreds to stand up behind the people saying vows and walking down the aisle, the more confused i've gotten.
tonight i finally stopped procrastinating and just talking about it.
hah.
so, without further delay, a link for random interesting tidbits of the history of the wedding party:
what is that wedding party for anyway?
or a shorter version of some of the same information:
why bridesmaids and groomsmen?
as she trimmed my hair this sunday, miss joann and i talked wedding stuff --[she had her sister stand up with her, only a few close family and a couple friends, and no big fancy dinner; just a white dress, not a marketed-as-wedding-boutique white dress that cost hundreds. it was meaningful for them, and what she preferred.], that was fascinating and down-to-earth to say the least.
[to say that i was intrigued by this blog i randomly happened upon is only the half of it. click here to read a fascinating blog: 2000 dollar wedding.]
wedding industrial complex. i find that tag in the blog really interesting.
as for the ring part of things, i love the different older customs and "with this ring" stuff found here. [yeah, a wiki link. don't hate.]
i mean, even though i'm partial even more nowadays to the idea of a smaller, eclectic, sweet, more intimate and simple wedding, what it really comes down to is what is right for you. it's your flippin' wedding and you and your honey should decide --if you're the type that want it to be show-like and glitzy, or cut down to the main purpose of it: a beautiful ceremony and gathering to celebrate the beginning of your lives together in this union.
that's what it comes down to.
what is important to you.
and what do you want the people [large or small numbers alike] to remember it as...
decide what you really want, and carry that out, no matter what you think others may be looking for traditionally or expecting of you. it's your beautiful day, and it's only one day. just the start. so don't make it too stressful leading up to it, because it's over before you know it. lol.
hahaha...so that's the deep wisdom i've come to realize in while observing and being immersed in tons of details everyone else is going through right now.
i'll be sure to write a follow up post someday in the future to say how easy or tough it was to carry out a simple dream of it. for that one day.
how was yours? were you excited/pleased with it? was it stressful or small or huge or casual?
do you dream/plan for yours someday, if you haven't been to that place in life yet?
surprise, surprise, right??
you know, since anna and i are in heather's [along with several other young women] this saturday.
i'm excited. :) she's going to be a beautiful bride, derek's going to be a handsome groom, us bridesmaids are going to be gorgeous [hahah], and it's going to be a wonderful time, and a really lovely, busy weekend.
tomorrow night [thursday] we host the bachelorette party, and i have a feeling it's going to be all sorts of awesome. with tons of laughing. i happen to like laughing. and making people laugh.
so with all this talk, my mind's been spinning.
what's traditional.
what isn't.
what's expected.
what isn't.
what is compulsory decisions.
what isn't.
what's important.
what isn't.
what's truly needed and wanted.
what isn't.
what blueprints do we throw out or make our own.
what things do we make new.
what do we care about.
why do we do what we do??
so far i haven't talked with many people who have dramatically different views opposing to mine, which have been shaped a lot over the past few months with heather [and my dear friend, pj] both planning weddings for march.
tonight i finally got around to researching wedding parties, because the more i talk about the people who spend hundreds to stand up behind the people saying vows and walking down the aisle, the more confused i've gotten.
tonight i finally stopped procrastinating and just talking about it.
hah.
so, without further delay, a link for random interesting tidbits of the history of the wedding party:
what is that wedding party for anyway?
or a shorter version of some of the same information:
why bridesmaids and groomsmen?
as she trimmed my hair this sunday, miss joann and i talked wedding stuff --[she had her sister stand up with her, only a few close family and a couple friends, and no big fancy dinner; just a white dress, not a marketed-as-wedding-boutique white dress that cost hundreds. it was meaningful for them, and what she preferred.], that was fascinating and down-to-earth to say the least.
[to say that i was intrigued by this blog i randomly happened upon is only the half of it. click here to read a fascinating blog: 2000 dollar wedding.]
wedding industrial complex. i find that tag in the blog really interesting.
as for the ring part of things, i love the different older customs and "with this ring" stuff found here. [yeah, a wiki link. don't hate.]
i mean, even though i'm partial even more nowadays to the idea of a smaller, eclectic, sweet, more intimate and simple wedding, what it really comes down to is what is right for you. it's your flippin' wedding and you and your honey should decide --if you're the type that want it to be show-like and glitzy, or cut down to the main purpose of it: a beautiful ceremony and gathering to celebrate the beginning of your lives together in this union.
that's what it comes down to.
what is important to you.
and what do you want the people [large or small numbers alike] to remember it as...
decide what you really want, and carry that out, no matter what you think others may be looking for traditionally or expecting of you. it's your beautiful day, and it's only one day. just the start. so don't make it too stressful leading up to it, because it's over before you know it. lol.
hahaha...so that's the deep wisdom i've come to realize in while observing and being immersed in tons of details everyone else is going through right now.
i'll be sure to write a follow up post someday in the future to say how easy or tough it was to carry out a simple dream of it. for that one day.
~~~
what's your experience been with weddings?how was yours? were you excited/pleased with it? was it stressful or small or huge or casual?
do you dream/plan for yours someday, if you haven't been to that place in life yet?
