Sunday, October 7, 2012

weddings and crap like that.

last night i had a weird dream.
part of it, i believe, was inspired by martha's detailed description of her date with ben out at this runway style show thing the other night.
my dream?
it included her picking out some horrendous rusty aubergine and gag-me shade of forest green dresses that cost somewhere between $200-$300 for us bridesmaids to buy and wear at their wedding.'s illogical and weird, considering she's trying her hardest to find a decent-priced, maybe swing-dancy, hopefully blue [maybe not] dress for us all to wear. lol.

it's fun.
weddings are fun.
just the teensiest bit of sarcasm in that. everyone who's been in or starred in or done a lot of background stuff in at least 1 or 2 weddings knows what i'm talking about, right? lol...

speaking of which....something exciting is happening tomorrow, and i can't post pictures. :P the ladies in my family, a few friends who are bridesmaids, and a super close family friend who is so adopted in [sarah;]...we are going dress shopping for me. [at david's bridal.]
......super mucho fun. :)
i know quite a few women who went only with their mom or maybe one friend to dress shop, but with a few of our close friends [jen, heather, pj] it was the bride-friend and 2-7 girlfriends who were going to be in the wedding. all sitting outside of the dressing room....
so with that in mind, it seemed great in the past with those other many-persons-attending experiences......just hoping [last minute] that it'll be fine and cool and wonderful tomorrow night......
all i know is i need a lot of tea and rest today, and bring plenty of lozenges and wear something cute and comfy tomorrow. lol.

but now, for your amusement and contemplation and thought/input pleasure, here you go...
my status/question:
...what r.e.a.l.l.y. matters in the planning of a wedding?
        KB: Being authentic.....
        AL: Not to drive yourself crazy with it, because when the day comes, yes it will be great....but all you will really want is to get it done and be a Mrs. It's sounds harsh, and no, I ...See More
        ER: Saying how your heart feels thru your vows, and being yourself! After helping plan 2 weddings and working on another one, I've come to realize simplicity is the best. Don't run yourself ragged stressing about details!
        SE: you, justin, a preacher, a witness, and a marriage license.
        RLG: keeping your priorities straight. it helps if you divide everything into three catergories:
        1. bare bones can't live without
        2. nice to have but not necessary to life
        3. things that'd be nice to have but if you don't they won't be missed
        for me, photography is definitely in the bare bones can't live without category. favors for every table however, are not. it helps a lot with budgeting and saves you so many headaches you get from dealing with things that don't even matter anyway. i learned so much from planning a wedding the first time that i swear i'm going to have the simplest wedding ever... but i know it will be the most important things that me and my fiance will want. and it'll be much more stress free that way. just focus on what's important to you and your man and what really matters. not just that day, but what will you remember 10, 20, 50 years from that day? focus on those things and it'll truly be a celebration with moments that will last you a life time, instead of just an event you've worked on for months and is over in a few hours.
        ER: Honestly, think about how many weddings you've been to and remember every single last detail. not very many! Just let it be beautiful and fall together :-)
        CM: not flowers, dear. not flowers. they don't last. (but ♥ does!)
        SM: what YOU and JUSTIN want and think matters...
        SE: we got our marriage license the morning we got married (it's not allowed in illinois but it is in hawaii). we got married on the beach - the location was amazing, but it was where j was stationed. he wore clothes he already had - a white button down with sleeves rolled, and khaki shorts. i wore a little white beach dress that i got for $30 online. his friend is a good photographer so i handed him my camera. that's all we did for our actual wedding. i'd never have it any other way.
        Me: SE, all i can say is a whole-hearted agreeing "mhmmmmm". :)
        PT: What do you think r.e.a.l.l.y matters?
        Me: to put it vaguely.......i guess you might all heart/see what i think really matters someday. ;)
        PT: Once you find THE dress all that other stuff mostly falls in place. It's the years after that you should really be preparing for and not sure you can do that... :-)
        JS You two, the people you care about, and whatever you feel makes the day feel special. :)
        JS: food and you guys but most of all what you two want for your wedding and not everybody around you :)
        GZM: This might sound crazy, but, letting other people have what they want is really one of the best ideas. You get your fiancĂ©, you get the photos in the end, but if your dad loves lemon cake, for example, order the lemon cake as a gift to him, and you'll both have sweet memories; he'll have contributed and will be proud, and truly, it's only one piece of cake. You can order raspberry cheese cake on your honeymoon. Same goes for flowers, colors, dresses, shoes, seating, food, etc.


Christina said...

Wedding stuff, eeks! I was in several weddings in a 2 year span. Two of the bridesmaids dresses I had to buy were SO expensive. I actually sold one on ebay later on. :p The other I let a friend borrow for their prom and they lost it and never gave it back to me. >:[

For my wedding, us girls wore Indian clothes. I think compared to the prices of usual bridesmaids dresses, my bridesmaids didn't have it too bad. They bought "salwar suits" from an Indian shop. :) My outfit was from India, actually picked out by my husband. I trusted him with the measurements and what color I'd like for a custom piece(saved lots of $ versus buying it in the US)-isn't that nutso?! haha and it worked. :O

ladaisi said...

So true. Weddings should be fun. They are also exhausting. I've done my fair share setting up/taking down/photographing/playing waitress-florist at weddings and it is not easy work.

Try to make yours as simple and stress-free as possible!!!